Back in 2005, playwright Peter Parnell and psychiatrist
Justin Richardson co-authored a children’s book, And Tango Makes Three, the true story of a pair of male chinstrap
penguins at New York’s Central Park Zoo who bonded with one another and
attempted to nest and hatch a rock together. Kindly zookeepers replaced the
rock with a real egg, and before long, out popped Tango.
We’ve come a long way from oh-so-controversial gay penguins in
the ensuing decade, and Parnell, who in the interim married Mr. Richardson, is
back with Dada Woof Papa Hot, a new
play at Lincoln Center’s Mitzi Newhouse Theater in which he explores a similar
situation, but this time with gay male humans as his protagonists.
Was it only last year that playwright Terrence McNally’s Mothers and Sons opened on Broadway and
gave us an evening of confrontational arguing over the right of gay men to
live with dignity, to be able to marry, and to raise families? That seems such old news now, as abstract “rights”
have segued into reality, and more and more gay couples are discovering they are
pioneers in the world of child rearing, where there are few role models that
match their situation.
That’s the far more complicated story that Dada Woof Papa Hot tells. And even if
the title suggests a gay comic romp, the play is decidedly a serious – though
often funny and only occasionally pedantic – eye-opener for those who casually
assume that gay married couples are in the same situation as heterosexual
couples.
I’m not talking about “acceptance,” here; that is not the
issue this play examines as it asks us to consider the lives of Rob (Patrick
Breen) and Alan (John Benjamin Hickey), the middle-aged couple at its center.
They and their friends and acquaintances are all trying to figure out their
changing identities and relationships that co-exist side by side with the joys
and vicissitudes of parenthood.
Couples like Rob and Alan, who had been together for many
years before being granted the right to marry, are entering into a brave new
world. Stonewall, the AIDS crisis, and
other milestones in the fight for equality – along with whatever shaped their
individual self-awareness and coming out experiences – all hover over their
decision to become parents. Most of the
parents they know, and certainly the ones in the generation they grew up with, had certain
societal models about how to do all of this. Child rearing for gay couples – at
least in the here and now – has its own unique flavor, and includes by necessity all
of the legal and financial issues involved in adoption, surrogates, egg donors,
frozen embryos, sperm banks, and other complications.
The playwright has taken away the financial burden by making
sure the couple is comfortably well off, but Rob and Alan are struggling,
nevertheless. Mr. Hickey gives a lovely
layered portrayal of Alan as a man who is feeling lost and uncertain of his place in the
new family arrangement, where Rob and their young daughter Nicola have the sort of strong bond that eludes him and that leaves him feeling the odd man out.
That Rob is Nicola’s biological father adds to Alan’s
consternation as to his place in the picture, and he seeks solace in the
younger Jason (Alex Hurt), half of another couple of their acquaintance. A
third couple, Michael (John Pankow) and Serena (Kelley Overbey), is also going
through some rocky times; Michael , who is Alan’s closest friend, is carrying on an affair with an actress, Julia (a freewheeling and
brassy Tammy Blanchard).
It’s a lot for one play to juggle, but Mr. Parnell has done a very good job of defining each of the characters and the flailing relationships, and Scott Ellis directs it all with a steady hand.
It’s a lot for one play to juggle, but Mr. Parnell has done a very good job of defining each of the characters and the flailing relationships, and Scott Ellis directs it all with a steady hand.
At some point down the road, gay parenthood may very well
turn out to be as commonplace and as complicated as the more familiar
male/female models, but for now, Dada
Woof Papa Hot gives audiences a glimpse into the unfolding mystery of love,
fidelity, and parenthood as seen through the experiences of gay men who want
and don’t want to be ordinary.
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